Okay I have so much to say and I'm going to try to compress it. Firstly, very well written as usual, so coherent and greatly paced I love it. Secondly, SO FUCKING REAL!!! God you've managed to put my feelings into words because this is EXACTLY what I feel and think. I've always struggled with reciprocation in friendships. Efforts returned and all. And I've only recently started handling it better. I give a lot in a friendship or relationship and I've always had problems with how my love is returned. I always expect people to do what I do. But I've realised that's not how it works. I have a few friends who do do things I do but that's because we're similar in nature. Surprisingly some of my most comforting friends are ones who are not like me at all. Like yeah my friend won't write me letters or send me paragraphs of appreciation but he cheered me up when my parents were on a brink of divorce, my friend might not be able to call me much but she still remembers my birthday and sends me cat pics whenever she can, my friend might not be able to call me for hours but she drived me everywhere when I didn't have a car and always had the best, unbiased advice, etc. There's many ways of appreciation and a friendship can grow even if you don't talk everyday and don't have 1500 pictures. All a friendship needs is two people who like eachother and put in effort, whichever way that may be. I can say so much more but this comment is long enough, sorry for that. I love this so so much I'm literally saving your posts so I can read everyday. Thank you for this 🙏🏼
Mahi, please never apologize for the length of your comment, it makes me feel so warm that you related to this and that you took the time to write this out. This is one of my favorite pieces, so I'm glad you enjoyed it!
I of course agree, the baseline of friendship is effort. Sometimes with people, you're so different, but you end up understanding each other enough to keep the love going. But to understand... to take the time to understand... that also takes effort! I think, someone like me, who is super emotional, needs to be understanding about different personality types etc... but regardless, empathizing with another person is so vital to a long-term friendship.
this is so well written
Thank you so much <3
Okay I have so much to say and I'm going to try to compress it. Firstly, very well written as usual, so coherent and greatly paced I love it. Secondly, SO FUCKING REAL!!! God you've managed to put my feelings into words because this is EXACTLY what I feel and think. I've always struggled with reciprocation in friendships. Efforts returned and all. And I've only recently started handling it better. I give a lot in a friendship or relationship and I've always had problems with how my love is returned. I always expect people to do what I do. But I've realised that's not how it works. I have a few friends who do do things I do but that's because we're similar in nature. Surprisingly some of my most comforting friends are ones who are not like me at all. Like yeah my friend won't write me letters or send me paragraphs of appreciation but he cheered me up when my parents were on a brink of divorce, my friend might not be able to call me much but she still remembers my birthday and sends me cat pics whenever she can, my friend might not be able to call me for hours but she drived me everywhere when I didn't have a car and always had the best, unbiased advice, etc. There's many ways of appreciation and a friendship can grow even if you don't talk everyday and don't have 1500 pictures. All a friendship needs is two people who like eachother and put in effort, whichever way that may be. I can say so much more but this comment is long enough, sorry for that. I love this so so much I'm literally saving your posts so I can read everyday. Thank you for this 🙏🏼
Mahi, please never apologize for the length of your comment, it makes me feel so warm that you related to this and that you took the time to write this out. This is one of my favorite pieces, so I'm glad you enjoyed it!
I of course agree, the baseline of friendship is effort. Sometimes with people, you're so different, but you end up understanding each other enough to keep the love going. But to understand... to take the time to understand... that also takes effort! I think, someone like me, who is super emotional, needs to be understanding about different personality types etc... but regardless, empathizing with another person is so vital to a long-term friendship.
Another perfect read. Seldom were anecdotes so at home with universal reflections, compactly objective meditations. Thank you, Amal.
Thank YOU. <3
Shes cracked the code 😩
Thanks to you <3