i literally sobbed as i read this bc i feel like it brought to name so many issues that i currently struggle with that are rooted in the shame i felt as a child and the shame i still feel as an adult. one very prominent childhood memory i have is being told "shame on you" a lot but i never realized how deeply i do carry this shame
oh, my, i'm so sorry it made you cry but i am so glad you felt seen. this piece is so important to me & i find myself coming back to it often. sending u so much love ♡
also, you mentioning the "shame on you" reminded me of how many times it's been said to me, too, and that's so eye-opening. my mom and family and basically everyone in my culture, say this often, but in arabic. crazy the different ways shame follows us around. it's such a heavy thing, and i hope we both unlearn it with time.
again, sending you love. i appreciate your comment and taking your time to read my letters ♡
You are such a compelling thinker and writer. Your attentive, loving streak shines forth in every last inch of this article---down to the interludes of greeting to your unknown reader, to the little footings at the end earnestly encouraging us to write back to you. This blog is a very lovely place to be, I can tell that much already.
Thank you for putting your writing, your personal history, your reflections out there for us.
Hello Alice! What a sweet comment, made me think I should go back to putting a little more love into my pieces. I let go of the little graphics long ago, but I do miss them.
I appreciate your comment so much. Thank you for being here, reading my work, leaving your thoughts. You made my day! So much love to you.
Thank you for writing this. I'm not sure how to properly articulate how I feel about your article but I'm just very grateful that you've decided to share your thoughts with us
i am laying on my floor in summer heat, at midnight and reading about shame and being the fixer. i read sentences make me put down my phone, sit up, hold my knees with both arms, put my chin on my knees and think.
i love this so much! it's currently close to 11 pm as i write this comment, and i definitely needed something to read that could explain my own thoughts to myself, and i'm glad this was on my feed! yesterday, i went to my alma mater, and with my best friend of 13 years and my former science teacher, i was able to navigate memories i had already forgotten due to my poor memory.
i carried both guilt and shame like two sacks of rice with my frail body, and my best friend reminded me that i had always been the peacemaker, too, and my teacher told me that i put so much love into others but not inwardly to myself. this letter of yours is actually so important to me right now. thank you for sharing your heart!!
thank you so much for reading and for leaving a comment! i'm so glad this piece helped you or made you feel seen in some way. i definitely know the feeling you're describing, and hope both you and i learn to start putting ourselves first!!!! ♡
i literally sobbed as i read this bc i feel like it brought to name so many issues that i currently struggle with that are rooted in the shame i felt as a child and the shame i still feel as an adult. one very prominent childhood memory i have is being told "shame on you" a lot but i never realized how deeply i do carry this shame
oh, my, i'm so sorry it made you cry but i am so glad you felt seen. this piece is so important to me & i find myself coming back to it often. sending u so much love ♡
also, you mentioning the "shame on you" reminded me of how many times it's been said to me, too, and that's so eye-opening. my mom and family and basically everyone in my culture, say this often, but in arabic. crazy the different ways shame follows us around. it's such a heavy thing, and i hope we both unlearn it with time.
again, sending you love. i appreciate your comment and taking your time to read my letters ♡
You are such a compelling thinker and writer. Your attentive, loving streak shines forth in every last inch of this article---down to the interludes of greeting to your unknown reader, to the little footings at the end earnestly encouraging us to write back to you. This blog is a very lovely place to be, I can tell that much already.
Thank you for putting your writing, your personal history, your reflections out there for us.
Hello Alice! What a sweet comment, made me think I should go back to putting a little more love into my pieces. I let go of the little graphics long ago, but I do miss them.
I appreciate your comment so much. Thank you for being here, reading my work, leaving your thoughts. You made my day! So much love to you.
Thank you for writing this. I'm not sure how to properly articulate how I feel about your article but I'm just very grateful that you've decided to share your thoughts with us
thank you so much for reading and leaving me this comment. it made my day. <3 sending you love
i am laying on my floor in summer heat, at midnight and reading about shame and being the fixer. i read sentences make me put down my phone, sit up, hold my knees with both arms, put my chin on my knees and think.
you are such a star ⭐️
so so much love for you <3
i love this so much! it's currently close to 11 pm as i write this comment, and i definitely needed something to read that could explain my own thoughts to myself, and i'm glad this was on my feed! yesterday, i went to my alma mater, and with my best friend of 13 years and my former science teacher, i was able to navigate memories i had already forgotten due to my poor memory.
i carried both guilt and shame like two sacks of rice with my frail body, and my best friend reminded me that i had always been the peacemaker, too, and my teacher told me that i put so much love into others but not inwardly to myself. this letter of yours is actually so important to me right now. thank you for sharing your heart!!
thank you so much for reading and for leaving a comment! i'm so glad this piece helped you or made you feel seen in some way. i definitely know the feeling you're describing, and hope both you and i learn to start putting ourselves first!!!! ♡