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Walyullah's avatar

Alright, I've a lot and half to say to this essay but it will have to wait. I need sleep and essay-length comments are best suited for laptop keyboards.

What I will say now is this: your writing style is so smooth. It's quiet and confident. It has wit and humor but it retains this consistent feel, a feeling of an indoor voice that doesn't ever jump to higher octave, like pouring engine oil into a funnel. I dunno if that made any sense but that's how I perceived it.

Very well penned. And quite a long essay too. Good imagery and movement as well, with the different dreamed up weddings and bringing things back, like the bit about escaping having a husband you hate. I love it when writing builds on and alludes to itself. It creates for richness and mixed layering of ideas like a marble cake.

Time to sleep. Bye.

Oh and that drumming hype up as the groom is introduced is so lit! Saw it at the first Syrian wedding I attended (the most segregated wedding too, boys and girls had completely different venues in neighboring cities/districts). Us brown folks, the tablighi jamat kind at least, don't know how to have any fun at a wedding. A funeral and walimah feel the same. Imma have to hire some Arabs to bring the hype when I get married haha.

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Amal Kiswani's avatar

Thank you so much for this comment, such lovely compliments, especially for a writer, and I appreciate that you took the time to offer your perspective so much.

I absolutely love the drum entrance as well. The zaffeh is the most entertaining part of a Middle Eastern wedding, in my opinion, and it always gets me moving even though I’m not much of a dancer.

Thank you, again, and sleep well! <3

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Mahi's avatar

This is so beautifully written and is just so..raw and vulnerable. As a hopeless romantic myself who plans weddings for every guy I remotely like I can understand this so well. I've also lived in Saudi for 10 years so a lot of the atmosphere you described was so real and felt familiar. I love this so much and I'm hoping the best for you. You know how to articulate your thoughts into writing perfectly and that's a gift no man can compare to. Thank you for this ♡

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Amal Kiswani's avatar

Mahi, thank you so much for reading and leaving this comment. You made my day!

Above all I'm so glad I reached an audience based in (or that has experienced) the Middle East because I definitely worry about relatability since... living here can have specific connotations and cultural ideals. I can't say I'm glad you related (this experience sucks), but so glad to have you around. I'd love to visit Saudi one day.

Take care!!

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Mahi's avatar

Ofc I totally relate to this. I write a lot about being away from home and homesickness and the cultural expectations and all that so I also definitely worry that I will not reach the target audience. I'm so glad I found this because it's so captivating and I'm excited to read more from you. ♡

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Amal Kiswani's avatar

I'm excited to explore your work, I feel like I would feel so seen! So glad we crossed paths on the ether 💖

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whitney sol's avatar

this was such a well-written, atmospheric window into your beautiful poetic life. you have me so emotionally invested, i am rooting for you!! every turn in your life has turned into this gorgeous poetry and i am so eager to read more!!

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Amal Kiswani's avatar

Wow! Thank you so much Whitney this means so much to me <333 Sooo glad you enjoyed it!

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Ayul's avatar

I loved everything about this🥹 love your writing style it’s truly amazing

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Amal Kiswani's avatar

Thank you so much! I really appreciate it. <3

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n is writing's avatar

This is incredible. I could relate as a twenty-something Muslim girl. You wrote what I have also been feeling, and I thank you for that.

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Amal Kiswani's avatar

I’m so glad the universe brought us together haha. We’re in the same age-range, feeling the same feelings, and there is something so beautiful about that. I am grateful I am not alone in these thoughts. Thank you for being here <3

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Hafsa's avatar

Oh I have an exam tomorrow and I was in the middle of preparing for it, but I could not resist reading this, you’re so brave!!!

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Amal Kiswani's avatar

Thank you so much for reading! Good luck on your exam! <3

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shin's avatar

I love this ❤️ that title alone had me hooked, like it was speaking to something i hadn’t put into words yet

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Amal Kiswani's avatar

Thank you so much <3

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Mari's avatar

Loved this Amal 🫶

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Amal Kiswani's avatar

Thank you <3

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seamus gilkey's avatar

now i can pretend that i know you even better ! 😂

i cant tell if you understand how (truly) fortunate you are or not…🤔

(i hope you can tell)

enjoy yore freedom(s) 💙

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Amal Kiswani's avatar

You probably already know me very well! Thank you for reading Seamus! <3

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Halima Ahad's avatar

I felt this in my soul 🥹🥹 sending you lots of love and hugs Amal <33

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Amal Kiswani's avatar

Sending you so much love back, thank you for reading <3

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Rawan Ashraf's avatar

ohhh Amal! You came into my mind and perfectly worded what’s going on. I love this and I love you💗

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Amal Kiswani's avatar

Thank you so so much, sending you all the love <3

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Hanae's avatar

It’s literally 2 am rn where I’m from. I can’t stop reading your essays. I feel so seen 🥹🥹 you have such an articulate way to convey intricate feelings

May God bless you

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Amal Kiswani's avatar

Hi Hanae! That makes me feel so soft inside. Thank you for reading. So much love to you <3

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anastasia k's avatar

this was such a beautiful piece, I was completely mesmerised all throughout!

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Amal Kiswani's avatar

Thank you so so much <3

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أريبا's avatar

my first time reading your essay, & to say I'm stunned. The writing and feelings of womanhood are so intricate. I resonated it deeply, every word of it. Thank you fir sharing your introspection to this beautiful space. Fi amanillah Amal ♡

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Amal Kiswani's avatar

Thank you so much for your comment and for taking the time to read it. I am so glad to hear that you resonated with this piece that is so close to my heart <3

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Jack Render's avatar

Another great one. You have so much heart, it always shows through.

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Amal Kiswani's avatar

Thank you so so much <3

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Tara's avatar

Amal you’re an incredible writer

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Amal Kiswani's avatar

Thank you 🥹💖

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